How to handle dating someone going through a divorce
Fast forward a few years, and in at least 50% of those marriages, one or both partners are going to bail on that commitment.Even those people who are completely clear and convinced they’re doing the right thing in ending the marriage can hit a very painful phase, particularly as the reality of the divorce hits them.And, an important piece here, this advice today is based on the fact that you’ve done your work to know that this man fits your requirements and your vision.
If he flat out does not know what went wrong with the marriage or is evasive, insist he get to the bottom of it with you.Any stalling, or worse, attempts at reconciliation are red lights for you to put a stop to seeing him until he is officially, legally single. If so, that tells you that he is willing to work on disagreements as well as letting you know that the divorce was not a rash decision.If he cannot or will not follow through on this, what kind of follow through will he have in regards to his commitment to you? Does he acknowledge his role in the marriage falling apart? If he says phrases like, "I'm not perfect" or "I really tried," take these as cues that his relationship with you will also feature him making an effort when needed.Oh, and if you can keep your sense of humor, that is a big plus!Karen Jones is the founder of The Heart Matters – since 1997, a relationship coaching and seminar company that’s been successfully helping women have the relationship they’ve always dreamed of.